Do you think you can be deeply succesful?
When most people think about a successful life – they visualise the media version created for us. Fame, big businesses, millions in the bank, great careers, Amazon best-sellers lists, big house, nice car…
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you shouldn’t aim high with your business life and have big goals and dreams.
But what if you aim for success your whole life and you reach it because you’ve worked super hard to achieve it yet you’re still not happy?
This plagues people a lot. I know because I have worked with several ‘successful’ people who still don’t feel fulfilled in life.
Life has a funny way of making us think that we’ll be happy when we reach something.
Yet what really happens is that the goal post always moves.
As soon as we reach where we think we’ll be successful, we’ve already pinned our happiness on a higher pinnacle. We can’t be happy until that new, higher level of success is reached.
It’s an endless nightmare and ends up in lives fraught with stress, unhappiness and a massive sense of not knowing why.
Consequently, we keep following what we think will make us successful and don’t really take a look at the cause of what’s making us feel unsuccessful in the first place.
There are four core values that result in a deeply successful life.
The biggie and most obvious is success itself.
Your life should definitely have things that you feel want to feel successful about and aim for. These things should be completed and you should feel that you have achieved what you set out to do. Give yourself credit where credit’s due.
But success doesn’t mean just business or career.
Success is also important in ALL other areas of your life.
Your Health needs to be successful. You only have one body and it needs to be looked after. It needs to last you many, many years and should be a priority.
Personal Development & Growth
Your Personal Development and Growth is an absolutely key area to creating your success.
Self-awareness, learning about yourself and discovering what makes you tick are so important to knowing what success even means for you and you alone.
From how your past has made you who you are today to what you can to do make your future a better place. This is a core area of life that needs work and is often ignored as irrelevant.
Building successful partnerships at home and with colleagues, friends, and family.
If your relationships aren’t strong, do you know how much this affects the rest of your life and your overall sense of success.
Humans aren’t made to be alone and to work alone. We’re made to find happiness through working with others and forming our own tribe of important people.
Have you spent time truly understanding your relationships with others? How many problems in your relationships are caused by what your thinking says about those relationships?
Relaxation and Down Time
Life is definitely not all about work, work, work.
Success in this area makes sure that you’re not overly stressed and worn out.
Being able to switch your brain off for a while allows for restoration of inner calm which is where great ideas come from.
Your environment should make you feel safe, secure and comfortable – a basic need of every human.
But successful environments can do so much more. They can help you feel energised, loved, appreciated, and a part of something bigger than you.
So success as a core value is definitely important.
The second core value is fulfilment.
In all areas of your life mentioned above.
However fulfilment is different from success. It is the deeper sense that your life is going the way you want it to go – a sense of knowing yourself and being happy with what you’re doing.
Fulfilment is also different from happiness.
Happiness is a fleeting feeling and can come and go. You cannot possibly feel happy ALL of the time, however, so long as overall you have a sense of life fulfilment, you’re on the path to success.
The third value is Balance.
Think about all the areas above. Is there balance between them all? Are you feeling successful in one area and not in others?
Look at your overall life’s balance. What area do you need to work on?
It’s pointless having a great career if your marriage is falling apart.
Having a massive bank balance won’t make a heart work any better if you are stressed, unhealthy oranxious.
A great body won’t help you necessarily get the job or partner of your dreams.
Where are you focusing your time?
The last core value to a successful life is Growth.
How are you growing as a person?
Do you need to evaluate your past to let go of old wounds so that you can forgive people in your present? How can you get out of your comfort zone in some areas and push yourself to do more? What do you need to learn?
Are there things you need to let go of? What do you need to accept?
Not until you spend the time to work out where in your life your success isn’t being fulfilled can you understand yourself well enough to really achieve true life success.
So take a look at each of the areas and create a sense of whether they’re fulfilling the core values to success.
Write each one down, analyse it and see where you’re at.
If you’re feeling like the area is as good as it can be, great!
However, if it’s not, think about what’s going on for you.
What do you need to explore? What ideas do you have to make that area better?
If you want someone to go it all through with and to really challenge yourself to create the success you’d like in ALL areas of your life, then have a think about working with me.